fat does not equal bad

[cassidyrose]

I am finding a lot of posts in the pregnancy communities where the poster wants validation that they don't "look fat" in photos of themselves, or complains about "looking fat" instead of "looking pregnant." I took a deep breath today and finally responded to one of them with the following (other things more relevant to the original post have been removed):

There is nothing wrong with looking or being fat. There are plenty of us in this community who were fat (and I do not use that word in a derogatory way at all--it is merely a descriptor) pre-pregnancy and I don't like it when "looking fat" is portrayed as terrible and something to be avoided, because to me, that says looking like me or the other fat women here is awful.

I understand you probably didn't mean to convey that with your words, but to this fat person that is how it sounds.

Comments

[cassidyrose.livejournal.com]

Oh thanks! I was trying to be diplomatic while still conveying the gist of "fat is not bad."